Why do men lie to women?
Have you ever wondered about how men think? What goes inside that mind of theirs? Or whether you are even able to understand them, then you are not alone.
A vast majority of women, especially those in long term relationships have pondered of these questions and more for hours. We are all made of same flesh and bones, then should it really be so hard to understand the members of the opposite sex?
After all how are you supposed to have a healthy and successful relationship with a man unless you truly know about how men think?
Most women hold inside them fears that are disheartening and very often keep them away from not just relationships but from the dating scene itself.
At the same time we all do realize the importance of being with someone right, someone who truly understands you, cherishes you and loves you for you are minus all the deceit, lies and mind games.
In a fast paced world like today, where instant messages and Facebook posts rule our world, a most of us suffer through bad relationships and in spite of all the relationship advice and relationship tips that online blogs and women’s magazine keep imparting on a daily basis, most of us struggle with saving relationships.
In reality we do not even know how to fix a relationship or how we are supposed to be improving them.
Stop for a moment and genuinely answer this question – how many times have you wondered ‘does he love me’?
How are you supposed to have a great relationship when you do not even know the answer to this basic question?
After all a great relationship is build in pillars of honesty, trust and the strength that comes from this togetherness. 99% of relationships that go sour happen as a result of doubts, worries and fears that very often result as a part of an immense lack of trust.
The moment these corrupting thoughts come into your brain, they reaffirm themselves rapidly and manifest in the form of a bitter end to a relationship.
These doubts force you into a state of misery where you stop enjoying the relationship and make you feel fragile, weak and worse of all, insecure. As a strong woman, that is the last kind of state of mind you want to be in.
No two human beings are the same and the same applies to men. No two men ever lie for the same reason although their lies can be grouped together in a general manner.
It needs a deep understanding of men and how men think to realize that they genuinely do believe that the reason for their lies are justified. Think about it for a moment, given how men think, that does not seem far fetched at all now does it?
In the initial stages of a relationship or the courting process a man will usually lie to impress you.
Most men really do think that unless they ‘big themselves’ up by lying outright, you probably won’t like them enough to consider going out with them. For a man to be completely honest to you he has to be concretely secure and as we all know, they rarely are.
Most men however are anything but that and they do not believe that they can get a quality, beautiful woman on their own without having to resort to lies.
Apart from lies about their work or their status, they will often tell lies to get you to spend more time with them, eventually hoping that it all end up leading to the bedroom.
Things like ‘I just want to spend time with you and be in your company, I am not trying to get into your pants’ or ‘Sex isn’t the only thing on my mind, I like you for who you are. I am not that shallow’ – Rings a bell? Men simply love to lie but they are truly horrible at it.
While initially this might seem like flattering or even complimentary behavior to a woman, it sets a bad pattern and only leads to problems down the line.
Given how men think, they start believing that telling small lies here and there is the solution to all their relationship problems. As time elapses, these lies keep increasing in size and there comes a point where everything just falls apart, and you end up getting deeply hurt.
How men think?
As I said above, they truly do think that by lying, they are doing good for the relationship. If it sounds backwards then that’s because it is.
For instance, if you intend to sit a guy and discuss an issue that has been nagging at your bone, then in most cases he would tell a lie, or reply in manners that circumvent around the core topic of discussion.
Why do they do that? Coz they do not want the drama.
For men, any time a woman bring up an issues, it is drama and they would rather tell a lie, that they most probably consider ‘harmless’ and go back to their ESPN and beer.
Men do not like confrontation (unless it is of the physical sort) and believe that by shooing the problem under the couch, they can live without grief and ‘drama’.
Needless to say, as these problems keep piling up, the pillars that strengthen your relationship keep weakening from the base and in due time, your relationship ends up in nothing but a rubble of bad memories.
Understanding men – the flip side
If you look at it from another point of view, the fact that men lie so much is not entirely their fault, although a majority of the blame still lies with them.
From an early age, men are taught to be strong and ‘not cry like girls’. They learn to lie to themselves first and then to the others.
From simple lies to their buddies about ‘how much I score with women’ and ‘ how I can bench press 300 lbs.’ to serious lies like ‘I don’t care about any other girl, I only have eyes for you’ even if they are still thinking about that blonde in a short skirt that they saw walking down the street earlier that day.
Other men insist that they lie, as they do not want to hurt their partner.
From simple lies like saying no to the question ‘Does my ass look big’ to bigger ones like ‘I was stuck late at work’ when they were truly spooning around with an attractive intern with whom he’s probably having an affair with.
They would rather tell a lie than confront the issues in the fear of loosing the relationship.
Given their lack of emotional intelligence, a man does not realize that such lies eventually lead a relationship into ruin. You can lie only for so long.
After a while women can sense these lies and that’s when trouble truly starts.
Honesty does not always get you the result that you want but in the longer run, it is the only way things should be, especially when it comes to building a strong relationship.
Lies may avoid the drama for the present moment but they are totally not worth it in the end. An insecure man is an unstable man and rarely will you find a man mature enough to realize these facts.
What is the solution to it then?
Can a woman ever begin understanding men, how men think and why do men lie?
How do you go about saving your bad relationship?
The first step of this process is undoubtedly getting real answer about why men do that what they do and there no way to get more truthful answers than from men themselves.
Surely your partner will most probably give you answer that benefit his cause, answers that will be far from the truth. What is a woman to do then?
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