How to flirt with a guy over text

How to flirt with a guy over text


Text messages and instant messages over mobile devices are the main way we communicate in today’s world.

In the last 5 years or so, communication has greatly evolved from being reliant on old phone systems and cellular connections to entirely being mobile Internet based.

We use Facetime and Skype for our regular calls and indispensably apps like Whatsapp, BBM and iMessages for our text needs.

Texting comes useful for every purpose, from coordinating a night out with your friends to scheduling meetings and doing business.

It’s quick, it’s effective and most of all, it leaves you with a record of a conversation that you can late refer to.

It is no surprise then that more and more couples are turning to text messaging for flirting, romancing and for expressing their feelings for each other.

Once consider a rather unemotional way of communication between couples, text messages have found wide acceptance among not just the millennials but also among people of other age groups and with the ease of usage it is bound to grow only further.

Another reason for their popularity is the fact that they are a great way to manage a relationship.

It is much more convenient than calling each other throughout the day. A quick text message does the job much better.

Texting also allows couples who are in long distance relationships or who are distanced from each other for some reason to communicate effectively.

A couple can inform each other of their daily activities, send them pictures of themselves and even flirt over texting.

Heck there are even those who even resort to sexting in times of dire needs.

Whether you are in a relationship or are in just the courting stages of one, if you are not using texting to your advantage then you are losing out on a big advantage, whether you are a guy or a girl.

Not just for guys

A lot of women are under this wrong self belief that a guy should text them first or that he should text her more often than she does.

In their mind every incoming text is a reaffirmation of their balance of power in the relationship.

This self limiting belief often fails them from getting into a new relationship or get with a guy that they really like.

If you really like a guy in real life what do you do?

You go up to him and talk to him.

Then why must a woman shy away from initiating contact with a guy that she likes?

The best part is that you don’t even have to pick up the phone to call him- just text him.

Even if you are nervous, you can hide it by texting him.

This is a very helpful tactic if you want to get thing started with one particular guy but you have to do it the right way.

Aimless sexting or worse, sending him sexy selfies won’t serve any purpose.

Even if he likes you physically, it just might lead to nothing more than a lustful encounter or two.

To establish a long term relationship your flirting needs to be effective without giving a promiscuous impression of you.

How to flirt with a guy over text?

The biggest thing to important when you are flirting with a guy over text is that you do not, under any circumstances; want to appear too easy for him.

He should never carry the belief that a simple date and a few drinks is all that will take him to get you into bed.

You have to ensure that he takes you seriously.

Don’t get scared off, this does not mean that you have to always be calculated or a cold bitch.

That extreme either will not make him feel anything towards you.

All you need is a certain amount of balance in your textual communication and you must follow your instincts to ensure you are on track.

More than getting to a set relationship goal, flirting is also great fun.

Once you figure out his personality and decide on a course of action, you can have a lot of fun along the way.

Seeing him evolve from just a stranger to your future lover.

Just like with anything else, there are certain things you must avoid and certain things you must do to ensure of a desirable outcome.

Ready to learn how to flirt with a guy over text?

Revealing your personality

When you text with a guy, over time it reveals your personality to him.

That is why a sense of caution is always advisory.

You do not want to talk to him like you talk to your girl pals neither do you want to address him like you do your male friends.

You do not want to reveal what is behind the curtain that hides your true personality.

That is for later, once you two have gotten together.

This is why you have to think twice and read every message you want to send to him before you actually click the ‘send’ button.

Do not make it one sided

Just because you like a guy a lot does not mean that you should reveal all your deep feelings to him.

Men by their raw nature want things that they cannot get.

If he knows that you want him badly or that you are easy, then he will take you for granted and matters will instantly become one sided, much to your disadvantage.

You do not want him to become complacent and take a back seat waiting for you to make all the moves.

Even if he is not actively doing so, you need to give away the impression that he is trying to seduce you and charm you.

That he is the one doing all the flirting and you are the one who is simply responding to his advances.

Make things appear like that and soon he will start believing it.

An opportunity to assess him

Apart from flirting and furthering things with the man you like, texting also gives you a chance to see him for who he is.

While you might like him at a first glance and after talking him for a bit at the party you met him at, it doesn’t necessarily mean that yours and his personalities are a tight match.

Maybe you won’t like sense of humor or the fact that he cusses too much.

Or perhaps his desire is only to get into bed with you and he doesn’t care much for a relationship.

Texting with him will reveal the truth to you.

Is he a player? Is he really funny?

Is he relationship material?

Is he someone you see yourself having a future with?

The answer to all these questions lies in scrutinizing his text messages.

Tips on how to flirt with a guy over text

The first and foremost thing you must remember is that flirting is supposed to be fun whether it is done in person or over text.

If you want to get a guy interested in you then you have to make sure that you make him laugh, make him want you and in the end, get him so attracted to you that he feels compelled to make the first move.

At the same time you want to keep your text messages short and to the point.

Funny does not mean that you copy paste long winded jokes to him.

That does not in any ways show him that you are a funny person.

Instead it means to put a twist on regular messages.

For example, he must be getting “hey what’s goin’ on” or “hey watsup” messages from most of his friends and acquaintances.

You do not want to be another person that sends him that lame message.

Instead make it funny and flirty.

For e.g. text him ‘stop thinking about me’.

Not only is this completely different to anything anyone will send him, this will make him laugh and he will that much more inclined to start a text conversation since your messages are so much fun.

Soon he will associate fun and good times with your personality and by doing so, you have accomplished your first task- to reveal the right side of your personality to him.

Smile- all the time

Ok we do not mean that you should send him your smiling pictures, but that you should use smiley faces in all your text messages.

Smiley faces go a long way in defining the emotion with which a text message is sent.

Remember, when it comes to a text message he cannot figure out the tone with which it was sent.

You need to make it clear for him, especially if you have a dry or a sarcastic sense of humor.

Otherwise he might take a message of yours literally and cause a avoidable argument or a misunderstanding.

This is the last thing you want so don’t shy away form dropping a bunch of smiley faces all over your messages.

Surprise him!

You do not have to wait for a certain time or a certain occasion to text him.

Text him when he least expects it. A great way to do that is just to tell him indirectly that you were thinking of him.

You could use an event, or an object to tell him that it somehow reminded you of him.

This will let him know that you were thinking of him without making you seem too desperate.

The best part is that once encouraged, soon he will start doing the same to you.

Use his name

It is a scientifically proven fact that when you use someone’s name in a conversation often, it endears you to them.

Not everyone who texts him will be doing that and this simple gesture will instantly set you apart from everyone else.

Not to mention the fact that he will start liking you more for it.

Make sure you do this especially when you are saying something nice or complimentary to him.

Go one step ahead and even give him a cute nickname.

That ensures that every time he hears or reads that word, he will always think of you.

Keeping a pet name for him is a sure fire way to take things further.

Be discreet while flirting

Flirting does not need to be sexual; in fact it should be anything but.

As mentioned above, if you make it too sexual, you run the risk of him thinking of you in a bad light.

Instead be very discreet and give him hints of flirting.

Let him ponder over what you say and the way men are wired, he is surely bound to think of whatever you say in a romantic tone.

For e.g. If he asks you what you are up to you could just tell him that you are ‘trying out a new short skirt I just got’.

Needless to say it will make visualize you in your new skirt and feel an arousal towards you.

To a naive eye that is not a flirty text at all and yet it does the job very well.

Do not drag the conversation

He is not your girl pal and there is no reason why you should be texting him for 5 hours daily.

Besides, if you do so then it will make you look clingy and if there is one thing men hate it is clinginess.

If he doesn’t respond right away or abruptly stops replying then do not confront him as to why.

Maybe he is busy, maybe his battery dies. It could be anything. Stay aloof at all times.

At the same time, do not be too eager to meet him or ask him out at every other opportunity.

The tips above will give you a fair idea of how to flirt with a guy over text.

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